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Internalised self dislike


 
The concept of internalised self dislike is often only  associated with gay and lesbian individuals who experienced internalised homophobia or with other minority groups who have been the subject of  prejudice. Homophobia and internalised homophobia are dealt with later on  this page. Internalised negative self-image may be most obvious amongst  easily identifiable minorities such as the black and asian communities.  However, it is important to be aware that we all, to a greater or lesser  extent, internalise negative self-images about ourselves as a result of  societal or family attitudes taken. We are often unaware of the negative  self-image despite the fact that it may affect our everyday actions and  behaviours. 

For example, we may have grown up in a predominantly working  class neighbourhood but have had the opportunity of further education and  followed a financially successful career. Despite all that we may still see  ourselves as working class and subconsciouslydenigrate ourselves for  that – as a result we may sabotage our career in subtle (or even not so  subtle) ways e.g. by delaying an application for promotion beyond the closing  date etc. 

Negative self image may be as “simple” as having a core  belief that “real men don’t cry” which could result in the suppression of all  or most emotions by or towards men. Another common core belief (which is not  often acknowledged) is that “women should be passive” – that may result in a  men treating women badly or may result in women not being assertive. Negative self image can be very subtle but the effects are often devastating.  Psychotherapy and counselling enable the individual to acknowledge and  address those issues within a confidential setting. 
 
Almost all of us dispute that we dislike ourselves or that  we hold a negative self-image. Unfortunately the evidence is that most of us  do  dislike ourselves and as a result often inflict pain on ourselves unnecessarily. Psychotherapy can assist in uncovering those negative attitudes towards oneself and afford a secure environment in which to resolve the conflicts that have arisen internally. Once those issues have been  addressed it is then possible to move forward in a more constructive way.

If you would like to make arrangments for a first meeting please either call me on 07956 569149 and leave a message (I will call back as soon as I am able), email me on dtwwilliams@gmail.com or complete the contact form below.

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